There’s more to the story, I’m sure. The whole Ray Rice, Commissioner Roger Goodell, Baltimore Ravens kerfuffle story that is. There’s almost always more to the story…
… but let’s move past the issue of how and why the gladiator mentality of the National Football League coupled with commonplace corporate cover-up thinking caused this problem in the first place. Let’s consider this issue of domestic abuse. It’s hard to talk about. It’s awkward. National statistics suggest that one in three women have experienced physical violence from an intimate partner. I work within the health care field and can only say that I believe it.
There are a number of contributing factors, tops of which is ignorance to the facts. Domestic abuse is about control and there are warning signs. Domestic abuse is often tolerated when suspected because “it’s a private matter” or because it’s misunderstood (“this is your cross to bear… you must bear it”). And when we “productize” women (check out many of the commercials played during a typical NFL game), we suggest to the masses that women are something to own, to control.
The Ray Rice incident was horrible. Watching the video can only make a person feel sick.
But it is shining a light on the ignorance. It is exposing the bad apples among us who look the other way, who believe that others can be mere possessions, who continue to invest our money and time in a league that really ought to know better by now.
And to those who think about women (and men too) who are controlled, who are victims, who are subjected to living without hope… and think “why don’t they just leave?”, please consider these stories (click here).